That’s Life! (1)

That's Life! Blog Series on IrisNacole.com Photography by Iris NacoleHiya friends!  I realize things have been sort of slow around here, and I can imagine that those of you that read this blog know why.  After my Dad died, I was pretty shaken up about it.  It still hasn’t completely sunk in as reality, and I know it’ll take a while for it to, so I am dealing from day to day with it all.  One thing good that has come from this situation is my determination to start taking better care of myself.  You see, for the past few years I’ve been in a funk.  I’ve gone through postpartum depression, seemingly recovered from that, then wham bam, along came another bout of depression regarding other aspects of my life.  Just when I thought I was on the other side of that, all of these new experiences have come along, but this time I’m in control!

I don’t know how or why this time is different, and the only thing that I can come up with is that looking back on how my Dad handled his personal health for many years really puts my own into perspective.  Before diabetes entered the picture, he was a wild and crazy guy, never really stopping to take a moment to care for himself.  Once he was diagnosed it was as if it never happened to him, and he neglected himself once again.  I have no doubt that it caused many of the problems to come regarding his future health, and so I am looking to him as an example to not follow regarding my own.  I am positive he looked back about it all and wished he had taken all more seriously sooner, but that was God’s plan for him, and so this is mine.

Now I find myself after years of neglecting my own personal health looking forward to a better existence.  I am lucky in the way that I have no major disease in my life to deal with, and before anything rears its ugly head because I just didn’t try to help myself, I’m giving it my best effort to get healthy again.

I’ve been thinking about what is healthy for me mentally.  As someone who suffers from anxiety, not a lot gets past me without making some sort of impact.  That’s why I’ve been taking it slow here on the blog, and other projects that I’ve been dreaming up for the house.  Don’t get me wrong, I still have a mile long list of things to do and share, so it’ll all make its way to the page, but it just may not be as quickly as I had anticipated it to.  Blogging has been a great outlet for me through all of the depressions, but at the same time, my “must always be perfect” attitude causes me a lot of stress. Getting to know other bloggers, work with brands I never thought I’d have a chance to work with, grow my photography skills, and share my story, be it a decorating story, or craft story has been so wonderful.  There is just this feeling you get when you know that something you’ve done has had an effect on someone else, and I guess that’s why I keep going with the blog despite the amounts of anxiety I have over it.

I’ve also been thinking about physical health, and how I have just let it fall to the wayside.  After having my son, my body was not “my” body anymore.  Any mom’s relate to that feeling?  The changes were everything I had feared, and maybe the pre-existing anxiety I suffered from, combined with the postpartum magnified it all and made it worse in my eyes.  After a few months of sulking about it though, I made the decision to lose the weight I had gained during the pregnancy, and at least get back to my pre-pregnancy weight.  That was still high for me, as I had gained about 15lbs from my normal weight.  I was successful in losing it all, using a diet called The 17 Day Diet, in which you cycle through 17 days of different dieting requirements.  It worked for me, and I was so excited to be back to “normal” (as normal as I could be in my mind anyways).  I’ve always struggled with self image, can you tell?  Fast forward to today and I’ve gained all that weight back and then some!  I found comfort in food during the past couple of years, and ate my feelings away.  Meal after meal, I would eat fast food, even with a fridge full of good food just sitting there waiting to be used.  Terrible, I know.  Wings, pizza, Chipotle bowls, Mexican food, burgers, day after day, meal after meal.  Soda always accompanying the food.  It has all been too much for my small frame to handle.  I have been looking in the mirror in shame over the obvious, and it hasn’t been the weight.  It has been the neglect, and lack of self worth that I have been feeling for so long.  As of a couple of weeks ago, I almost couldn’t recognize myself!

My cousin was kind enough to take photos of me and my family members that I saw at my Dad’s funeral for the first time in a long time.  How terribly shocked was I when I saw the photos in my inbox?  Well I was horrified at the person standing amongst the crowd.  “Who is that?!”, I asked myself, fully knowing it was all of my personal neglect staring back at me.  That was enough to shock me into reality.  I was no longer myself, but I knew I could be if I just gave myself a chance, and so I have.  As of the Monday before last, I have cut the fast food out of my life, along with the soda.  I am eating healthy home cooked meals, and when I am faced with eating out, I have made much wiser choices in the foods I order.  Water is my best friend, and I am exercising at least 30 minutes a day.  In only a week I feel like a new person.  The anxiety is not as prevalent, probably due to the exercise, and I have taken on a sort of glow that I haven’t seen in a while.  Oh and my double chin is disappearing as I type!  😉  It’s a Godsend really, and I plan to continue down this path of health for not only myself, but my family.  My plan is for great health for all of my family members.  John has joined me on this journey, since I truly believe that the whole family has to be in on it, and he has already lost some weight, and inches too!  Rordan continues to eat well, thankfully I at least had that under control.  He’s a pretty picky eater, but I’m hoping to introduce more and more veggies to his diet as time goes on, so we will see how that goes!

I am so excited to see where we are all at in a years time.  My hope is that we are out and about much more as a family, with no health problems looming due to our diet, and of course that we are happy.  Overall that’s the goal, and I see how my diet change of eating habits are already fueling that in my life, so I am sticking with it.  I’ll be updating y’all every so often about our progress too, so stay on the lookout for it.  I’ll keep with the “That’s Life” title to make it easier to follow along.  Thanks again to everyone that has been so supportive of this blog as I have secretly been struggling behind the scenes.  You’ll never truly know just how much I appreciate it.

Until next time!

-Iris

Memorial Day Cookout (Blogger’s Picks with Wayfair.com)

**This post is brought to you in collaboration with Wayfair.com.**
With Memorial Day and summer right around the corner, it’s no doubt that get-togethers will be happening soon all around the country.  Around here, “cookouts” are part of our daily culture, and the sounds of people laughing, good music, and the smell of delicious barbecue can be experienced at any given moment in our neighborhood.  It’s glorious!  Not everyone is as prepared for the season though, and if you are one of them don’t fret.  I’ve compiled a list of my favorite cookout must haves to help you prepare!  Have a look!
patio dining sets
Dakota 8 Piece Dining Set with Cushions
This dining set it a great place for you and your guests to relax and enjoy your get-together.
patio umbrellas
9.8′ Paradise Cantilever Outdoor Canopy Umbrella
Don’t have a covered patio or deck? Provide shade using a large canopy umbrella!
outdoor pillows
Gingham Outdoor Throw Pillow
Nothing says “cookout” like a bit of gingham!
outdoor dinnerware sets
Glazed Crackle Melamine 12 Piece Dinnerware Set
Opt for melamine dinnerware instead of throw away paper products. You can use them again at your next cookout!
gas grill
Classic 4 Burner Grill with Side Burner
This grill is perfect for your next cookout! With ample space to cook multiple food items at once, you’ll have your meal cooked up quickly for all to enjoy in no time!
grill tools
18 Piece Tool Set
Don’t forget your tools! These come with a handy case to store them away once they are all cleaned up!
coolers
80 Qt. Oakland Patio Cooler
Having a cooler filled with your favorite beverages is a must at any cookout!
fire pits
Ball of Fire Steel Bowl Fire Pit
Gather around this fire pit, and keep the party going late into the night!
string lights
Steady 25 Light String Light
Add a little twinkle to your party with this light set. Your guests will love the ambiance it creates!
American flags
United States Traditional Handheld Flag
Use these handheld flags as picture props to liven up your photos!

 

I hope these items have given you a good idea of what to look for on your next shopping trip for outdoor decor, furniture, and appliances, and that you enjoy your next cookout to the fullest!

Thanks for stopping by today!

-Iris

unnamed

One Room Challenge: “Men’s Lounge” (Week Six-The Reveal)

1459391059842 Welcome back friends!  I am excited to say that I have successfully completed my third One Room Challenge as of this past Monday!  This one has been challenging in other ways, with the hospitalization of my Grandpa (He’s doing well, thank you.), and the passing of my Dad (Tragic.).  With two great men in my life faced with life’s real challenges I was snapped out of the bubble that is the One Room Challenge, and let myself deal with those things appropriately.  True to my nature tough, I couldn’t let it keep me from moving forward with everything.  Instead I’ve taken it as a sign to really start taking care of myself and to slow down and enjoy the things I am accomplishing instead of always being five steps ahead of the game.  I think it will a good thing for me, a good thing for my family, and a good thing for the blog.  Thank you all for the well wishes, and condolences.  I truly appreciate them.

Mid Century Modern Rustic Men's Lounge-Mood Board by IrisNacole.com
Follow along with all of my ORC transformations here!

Maybe the fact that I was dealing with such adversities with the men in my life, it was appropriate that this challenge I chose to create a “Men’s Lounge” for my husband?  For my husband, living in a home that screams, “This is Iris’ style, and I like it, but it wouldn’t be my first choice, but I want her to be happy so I let her do whatever she wants with the decor.” giving up one room to his style was a no-brainer for me.  I really wanted to create this space to show him just how much I have appreciated his cooperation and support as I test my skills for decorating and design in our own home.  We chose to call this space a “men’s lounge” instead of a “man cave”, because it isn’t necessarily equipped like a normal “man cave” with all of the electronic bells and whistles.  Our family is what you’d call “attached at the hip”.  We rarely ever do things alone.  With that in mind, we knew it would be silly of us to invest in all of that fancy stuff for this space, since we have it only a few feet away in our family room.  Instead the idea behind this is to give John a space to get ready in the morning, to sit and check the weather or traffic report before he leaves, and maybe relax, put up his feet, and have a drink when he comes home from work after a long day.  It’s also equipped with a desk space so that on the rare occasion that he has to bring work home with him, he will have a space to get it done without having to deal with the craziness that is my craft room (home office).  It is messy in there y’all!  I’m working on it..I swear! 

A little update from last week before we get to the reveal.  We ended up pulling down the shiplap wall that I shared here last week, because it was actually coming up off the wall on its own.  Especially after I tried to paint it!  You may have seen on my Snapchat (irisnacole) that whole saga play out.  For a second I almost scrapped the idea, but I am honestly so glad we tried our hand at it again.  We went back to Home Depot, and luckily for us, the guys working that day were super nice and cut all the wood down for us.  Oh, and since we figured out we were using too thin of wood during our first attempt we purchased 1/4″ plywood sheets this go round.  It was like night and day during the application, and hasn’t budged since we put it up.  Success!!

Well, I’ll stop rambling now and just get to it.  I took a ton of pictures of the space to share with y’all today, and ended up narrowing it down to around forty.  I’m going to do my best to narrow that down even further, but I can’t promise you anything.  Haha!  I’m just so darn proud of this space, since it’s so different from my normal makeovers, and really let me stretch my decorating wings to show that I can accomplish different styles from my own.  John loves it, and keeps giving me praise over it all, but we worked together as a team to get it done, so I owe him some praise too.  We hope you like it!

Men's Lounge, Rustic Mid-Century Modern Decor, Iris Nacole.com One Room Challenge

Men's Lounge, Rustic Mid-Century Modern Decor, Iris Nacole.com One Room Challenge

Men's Lounge, Rustic Mid-Century Modern Decor, Iris Nacole.com One Room Challenge

Men's Lounge, Rustic Mid-Century Modern Decor, Iris Nacole.com One Room Challenge

Men's Lounge, Rustic Mid-Century Modern Decor, Iris Nacole.com One Room Challenge

Men's Lounge, Rustic Mid-Century Modern Decor, Iris Nacole.com One Room Challenge

Men's Lounge, Rustic Mid-Century Modern Decor, Iris Nacole.com One Room Challenge

Men's Lounge, Rustic Mid-Century Modern Decor, Iris Nacole.com One Room Challenge

Men's Lounge, Rustic Mid-Century Modern Decor, Iris Nacole.com One Room Challenge

Men's Lounge, Rustic Mid-Century Modern Decor, Iris Nacole.com One Room Challenge

Men's Lounge, Rustic Mid-Century Modern Decor, Iris Nacole.com One Room Challenge

Men's Lounge, Rustic Mid-Century Modern Decor, Iris Nacole.com One Room Challenge

Men's Lounge, Rustic Mid-Century Modern Decor, Iris Nacole.com One Room Challenge

Men's Lounge, Rustic Mid-Century Modern Decor, Iris Nacole.com One Room Challenge

Men's Lounge, Rustic Mid-Century Modern Decor, Iris Nacole.com One Room Challenge

Men's Lounge, Rustic Mid-Century Modern Decor, Iris Nacole.com One Room Challenge

Men's Lounge, Rustic Mid-Century Modern Decor, Iris Nacole.com One Room Challenge

Men's Lounge, Rustic Mid-Century Modern Decor, Iris Nacole.com One Room Challenge

Men's Lounge, Rustic Mid-Century Modern Decor, Iris Nacole.com One Room Challenge

Men's Lounge, Rustic Mid-Century Modern Decor, Iris Nacole.com One Room Challenge

Men's Lounge, Rustic Mid-Century Modern Decor, Iris Nacole.com One Room Challenge

Men's Lounge, Rustic Mid-Century Modern Decor, Iris Nacole.com One Room Challenge

Thanks to Linda of Calling it Home for hosting this great challenge again this year, and to all of you for stopping by today!

Design, Styling, and Photography all done by myself.

**This post contains affiliate and sponsored links.  All opinions are my own.**

A special thank you to our sponsors, Rugs USA, and Lamps Plus.  Rugs: Cowhide Rug, Jute Rug (Check out their Sale!)  Lamps: Hobson Bronze and Antique Brass 17″ High Wall Sconce

Lamps Plus and Rugs USA, One Room Challenge Sponsors for IrisNacole.com

Get the Look!

 

Source List:

Lounge, Gold Frames, Coat Hanger, Desk Chair, Plaid Pillows-West Elm

Sconces-Lamps Plus (Sponsored)

Shelves, Tumblers, Cocktail Shaker, Coasters, -Pottery Barn

Rugs-Rugs USA (Sponsored)

Desk-Wayfair

Planters-Target

Faux Plants-Hobby Lobby & Michael’s

Curtain Rod-Lowe’s

Wood for Shiplap Walls- Home Depot

Longhorn Photos-Shutterstock

Side Table, Decorative Objects (some were family heirlooms), and Desk Objects, Black and White Pillow, Beer Logo Art, Curtains, Black Gallery Wall Frames, Serving Tray-Home Goods

You may also like! (Click on the pictures to take you to the post.)

Coastal Themed Family Room Makeover-Shop the House-IrisNacole.com

Spring Living Room Tour-34

Coastal Office Home Tour IrisNacole.com

Laundry Room Makeover Coastal Farmhouse Decor

See the “featured designers” here!

One Room Challenge, Season 10 Featured Designers

 

 

Dedicated to the memory of Fernando Garcia Jr. (Dad)
Dedicated to the memory of my Dad, Fernando Garcia Jr. (Love You!)

-Iris

One Room Challenge: “Men’s Lounge” (Week 5)

1459391059842This week has been a life changing one, and I am not saying that satirically.  My Dad passed away on Friday morning.  He had been suffering from the effect of Diabetes for many years, and though he was the man with “nine lives” as I’d like to think, he didn’t make it this time.  Growing up, I was not raised by my parents, and it was only in my adulthood that I was able to establish a relationship with him.  I’d like to think that it was all meant to be, and that the times we had and the love we shared was all part of God’s plan.  It’s much better than regretting time lost, but the idea of it still stings a bit.

Dad-1

As you can imagine, it was a huge punch in the gut, and the fact that it occurred immediately following the hospitalization of my grandpa, who is doing well now, thank God, I have pretty much become emotionally and physically drained.  Always one to carry on though, something grandpa really instilled in me, we kept working on the room for the One Room Challenge.  I think it was a nice distraction to all the pain I was feeling too.

Mid Century Modern Rustic Men's Lounge-Mood Board by IrisNacole.com
Catch up with this challenge here!
Over the weekend John and I decided to tackle the faux shiplap wall.  It’s up, and well, it looks like we did it, and I’m not sure that’s a good thing, haha!  The wood we used was pretty flimsy, since we wanted to use the thinnest wood we could find.  Running it through the table saw took both of us, because of its size, and we weren’t all that great at keeping it straight.  The difference in width is small, but once you start applying to the wall it becomes pretty apparent.  Maybe it’s always that way, or maybe I’m just really picky, but unless someone else is cutting the wood for us, I will not be doing this in any other part of my house.  We actually tried to get both of our big box stores to cut the wood down for us, but because it was the weekend, and it seems like both have adopted a no courtesy cut policy during it, we would have had to have placed an order and request to get it done.  With everything going on, I just didn’t have the patience to wait, and so we did it ourselves.  Lesson learned!

Faux Shiplap Wall One Room Challenge Men's Lounge

Faux Shiplap Wall One Room Challenge Men's Lounge

Faux Shiplap Wall One Room Challenge Men's Lounge

Faux Shiplap Wall One Room Challenge Men's Lounge

We still need to add trim, and to paint it to “finish” it, but I can’t guarantee that one day I won’t go in a rip it all off the wall and start over from scratch.  I’m honestly too drained to do it now, or I would have already done it.

Did you notice that I haven’t said anything about our newly installed floors?  That’s because they didn’t get installed.  Call me cursed.  Maybe call it first world problems, because really I shouldn’t complain about such luxuries.  The installers showed up on Monday and started to unpack the planks.  By the fourth box they knew they wouldn’t be doing it that day.  The planks had bowed a bit, I guess because John and I were distracted and left the stupid window open during bad weather.  Yeah, go us, haha!  The guys thought leaving them opened in the room for a few more days, would do the trick.  They had run across a similar situation a few weeks ago with the same planks in another house, and did this, and were able to install without issue.  I’m praying for that to be the outcome for us too, but if not have no fear about the reveal.  You will be seeing at the very least, and “almost” completed room.  The painted subfloor will only add a bit of grit to the space, so it’ll be okay.  Haha!

In other news, I was able to find art that I really am excited to use in this room.  I told you I’d be adding as many longhorns to the space as possible and I wasn’t kidding.  Here’s just one of the pictures I am planning on using.

Stock Photo: Ankole-Watusi in front of a white background Image ID:19480054 Copyright: Eric Isselee
I’m debating on making them black and white, so we will see next week what I ended up deciding.

Until then!

-Iris

One more thing…Thank you so much, to those of you that were aware of what went on this past week.  The prayers really lifted me up, and I am so thankful to have y’all in my life, even if only virtually.  

Follow along with the featured participants here!

One Room Challenge, Season 10 Featured Designers